Welcome everyone to Tash talks. I'm so excited that today I have my first ever guest and her name is Amanda. She is the most amazing transformational coach I have ever come across. She does some amazing work with her clients. She has the most compelling story. She is filled with knowledge and I'm just so excited to have her on the podcast.
And I'm going to let her take the floor so she can introduce herself, give us all that amazing knowledge that she has, and I'm going to let her share her story. So, hi, Amanda. I will let you introduce yourself and yeah.
Oh, hello. I'm like just, I'm feeling so grateful to be here. Seriously. Thank you so much for having me on, like, and that was a wonderful introduction, so, Oh, thank you so much.
So, I guess to start off maybe a little bit about my background and how I kind of got into coaching. So I started as a copywriter. That was my first like introduction to entrepreneurship.
That's when we connected. I remember.
Yeah. That was back like way back when I was a copywriter. And that entire thing transpired because I had gone down this very traditional path of going to school and going to more school and getting a nine to five and being in that world and just realizing that that was not a good fit for me.
I knew I wanted to do something more and I'd always loved to write. So my background in the like traditional world was engineering. I was always that, that engineer, that person throughout school and in my work who loved doing like the reports, I loved writing and I loved putting together the presentations and everyone was always so like shocked.
It's like, you're an engineer. You're not supposed to be able to communicate or know how to do that. So copywriting really just made sense and. It's funny because throughout that process, while I fought that I would, I would be totally happy once I'd had this like a successful business, you know, creating my own freedom.
I just, had this idea in my head that that would solve all of my problems. But then I got to this point where I had reached the level of success that I thought that I wanted. And I still felt pretty much the same. Like I was still dealing with a lot of like the same internal. Struggles and limiting beliefs and mindset blocks.
And while this was an improvement from my nine to five, I still felt in that same sort of energy of, I have to be doing something for someone else that I don't want to be doing. And I just wasn't fully aligned. So there was something missing and that really led me into the coaching path. You know, and I started out as a, as a business coach for copywriters, helping other copywriters start their business and grow in the same way that I did.
And through that whole process of really diving into personal development and getting to know me more and discovering, you know, the law of attraction and manifestation, I now arrive at the point that I'm at. Currently, which is a combination of business coaching, but also transformational work because you can't just focus on the strategy piece.
Like you need the deep inner work to really access your next.
And I love that. And I remember when I came across your profile, you were killing it. You were absolutely killing it. I was like, yes, love this girl. And we instantly connected. Yeah. And I've honestly watched you blossom into this cause you, you transitioned into like a full manifestation coach and you were really dabbling in that.
And I think it is so it's, it's an amazing story and authority building factor where you have done the damn thing with strategy and that you felt guided and intuitively you transitioned into more of that law of attraction. And so you have both of those elements because. Which I think is such, is your superpower in a way, because what I've noticed is a lot of coaches tend to either be on one side or the other, and that's just how they are.
And there's nothing wrong with that, but you are able to fully educate and speak in a very. Professional way and experienced way on both elements and understand like actually why this strategy works or leaning into law and law of attraction here, which I think again is like your superpower as a coach.
Like that's amazing.
Thank you. , I really do like feel that and that's something that I have been. Intentionally focusing on cultivating more within myself and within my business, because when I first kind of transitioned into the world of entrepreneurship and personal development, my initial push was to just renounce the whole engineering thing like that analytical.
Logical strategy side of me. I was like, no, that's not me anymore. I'm not going to do that. You know, I was miserable there. Well, it wasn't the actual topic. It was the structure of the nine to five that doesn't work for me. And so now I'm really embracing like, Oh, I have an analytical mind and a creative mind in fairly equal proportion.
And when I cultivate this more and bring this out, not only does that get better results for my clients, but that's me being in alignment with who I really am
So that's how I can show up and actually serve to my fullest.
Yeah. And like, because you said you, you felt like you weren't connecting to that.
Like, what was that distinctive moment or period within your life where you were like, okay, this isn't it. And what kind of put you down that spiritual path and that leaning into more. The law of attraction universe manifesting because that's very different. And I find when people do really lean into that there's that moment where they're like, Oh, and it's like a transformational moment where you kind of go through your spiritual awakening if you want to call it that.
So, yeah. I'm curious to know what that moment was for you.
I don't know if there was like a singular moment. I think that it was kind of a lot of momentum. Of realizing that I can take all of the action. Like I can do all of the things that I'm supposed to do, but if I'm doing it from a place of, I don't really want to do this, this doesn't really feel good.
I don't think it's going to work out. It might work out, but it's probably not like, it doesn't matter what action I take and what results I get, because, at the end of the day, I'm going to feel the same way. Yeah, I feel unfulfilled. I'm going to feel disappointed. I'm going to feel upset, whatever, whatever those emotions happen to be in the moment.
And you know, this, this spirituality stuff, like whether it's the law of attraction or spirituality or psychology, or just, present moment awareness. This is the stuff that is not talked about in schools. It's not emphasized in our modern society, emotions. By themselves, right. Are often shamed and pushed down.
And so it's like when I started to discover, I first found the law of attraction with Abraham Hicks.
And when I first, discovered this whole new world, basically my mind was kind of blown. It was like, there's this whole other aspect of humanity that I have been ignoring and not just ignoring, but actively resist.
So it was really, it was really a process. I think. I,
I agree with that. The resisting, the factor of that cause me too. I'm sure most people have heard of manifesting and spirituality and you were kind of like, Oh, whatever, I'd be like. Yeah. Yeah. Like maybe I somewhat believe in little aspects, but you don't because you didn't understand the why the how, and the meaning behind it.
And that's where I feel like you dove in and you were like, Oh, and you let that creative side. Go after that and actually educate yourself and fully fall in love with the whole aspect of the law of attraction, because you understand it now. And I find it interesting too, because, through that spark of curiosity, it allowed you to pivot.
And I feel like that's something that a lot of entrepreneurs tuning into right now can resonate with that and relate to pivoting and knowing in your business, like you said, where. You're just like, Oh, do I really want to do this? Like, it doesn't like me up, like even myself, I've pivoted a few times as well in a year and a half.
And I think there's this mindset because I've talked with a lot of people have kind of, I don't want to say disappointment, but they have this feeling of failure around pivoting. They're like, Oh, well, I kind of failed at that business. But then on the flip side, so I've noticed that people either say like, Oh, like I have to start from scratch.
It's a very negative mindset, which we're going to dive into mindset too because you're just a master at that I find. And so with pivoting it's either, Oh, I kind of feel like a failure because I wasn't able to do that. Or people feel so aligned and they realize that's the universe pushing them to alignment, like their true purpose.
So I want to dive into the topic of mindset and motivation with you and just hear your, knowledge and expertise around limiting beliefs as an entrepreneur. And because we all experienced that and tie the whole law of attraction with the universe is trying to say, Oh, that's a source.
I love this topic so much. It's so bad because it's something that we all. Deal with all of us. And especially like, like you just said in that moment of the decision of, to pivot or to not, you can either face it with acceptance and love knowing that, it's like a trust fall with the universe, or you can resist it and be fearful and project disappointment before it's even happened.
And this goes, this is so true with everything. So with the whole mindset stuff, really the. The only goal or the only agenda here is to feel good. That's it? It's so, so simple. And even saying the words I'm like, okay, you've probably heard this before. It's really simple. Like, how do I make this land?
Because there's another layer to it that like, once it clicks, it's so powerful. So. When you consider the universe, right? Like we know this from a scientific perspective. Like when you think of the big bang, everything came from a singularity from this like an infinitely small point. So everything that we see around us, it's infinite, it's already been created.
It's already been done. There's no new stuff being added. We know that from physics. Right. But we also know this from spirituality and the law of attraction. You know that it is already done, that everything in the universe has already been created, like all States already exist. And when I say a state, I mean a perspective.
So an emotional state, a set of beliefs, a thought the lens through which you view reality. And when you understand that framework, that everything is already there, everything's already accessible to you. And as a part of consciousness, you are a conscious being. You are tied to that infinite reservoir of States of possibility of potentiality access it at any moment.
So that first piece of understanding happens and then comes the embodiment phase because it's one thing to understand a piece of information. And it's another thing entirely to embody it. All that means is that you are living it. It is your truth. It's not just this intellectual thing that hasn't crossed the barrier into your feelings.
How do you, that knowledge you can choose your state at any moment? And then really all of the mindset and all of the limiting beliefs stuff. And honestly kind of goes out the window a bit because when we talk about that, we're talking about techniques to get you into the place of feeling good.
You really need those deliberate techniques or those practices kind of up until the point that you've embodied the knowledge that you have instantaneous control over your state in every single moment, no matter what's going on around you.
And so for you, because this is something I've heard a lot is where are those limiting beliefs come in?
And I do want to ask you after this statement is what are some of the tools that you use in order to be in control of your state and not go down that rabbit hole, but what I've quite often heard. And I think this is what most people hear is it's your ego getting in the way. So not you're not speaking from your higher self, which is kind of like that whole, what you were just saying of being able to control your state and define what your life looks like when you have that understanding and knowledge.
that's mainly what I hear is your ego comes into play and that's where you're just like, I can't do this. I'm a failure. All of that's not going to happen or I'm going to get no one that signs up for my course.
Right. And your ego is really there too. I mean, it's designed to protect you, right?
So all of those examples that you just gave would be your ego's way of protecting you from something that you are resisting feeling. And it's always going to be in line with your program. You know, the belief systems that are running you. So I guess this is maybe we can talk about this kind of. I don't know if it's too much of a tangent, but just like programming and subconscious programs be something that can get in the way.
So you have, we are all programmed from such an early age, from our parents, from our caregivers up until the age of about seven or eight, we're operating from like 95% subconscious mind, which means that everything that comes in, you take it in as a felt experience. So, you know, your parents. Like yelling at you for not cleaning your room or something could be interpreted by your six-year-old self as, as a traumatic event, as an emotionally traumatic event.
And you could create a whole story around that and why you're, you're only good enough if you keep your house clean and if you're messy, you're not good enough. But then if you were to ask your parents, so you're 25, 30 years old, you're asking your parents. They probably don't even remember it's because it's about the perspective through which you're viewing.
If you mean the experience, I feel like I maybe kind of got off track there.
That's okay. Honestly, I love that conversation that flow, if you want to go off and educate on that one topic by all means. But basically, the question was because I was tying it into the ego and then keeping that.
Control of your state. What are some of the methods you use in order to do that and keeping your own self? Cause I'm sure you're human. You've had moments of limiting beliefs. You have had moments where you lose that control. So now that you have really dove in and made yourself very educated within this topic, what are some of the tactics that you have learned to keep yourself?
I guess level-headed yeah.
Great question. So. The first one, the biggest one for me has been consistent daily meditation. And I know that everyone likes to talk about meditation and you've got to meditate, whatever, but seriously, it's a big deal and you can start with like 10 or 15 minutes a day. That's totally great.
It does not have to be this big, long thing. I'm in a place in my life right now where I will meditate for like 45 minutes to like times two hours. Because it feels good because I want to, because there's this barrier, like this threshold that you cross, that you entered this completely different world within your mind, and it's a bit difficult to articulate and really explain it's more of just a felt experience.
But what meditation allows you to do is to be more aware of how you feel. So often the biggest culprit when it comes to these limiting beliefs and these stories. And I don't know if you've ever caught yourself in a moment where you're like, Oh my God, my thoughts are spiraling into like negativity right now.
How did this happen? How did I get there? That's because there were many steps before that moment and you just weren't aware, but if you're aware of how you feel, not just intellectually, what's going on in your mind, but how you feel. In your body, the more you're aware of that, the easier it is to catch and course correct.
And I think, you are right. A lot of people preach about meditation, but also it's the most basic, but I think one of the best ways to accomplish a lot of this. Connecting with the spirit of connecting with your higher self being grounded, calming your stress levels, even as an entrepreneur getting downloads.
And if that's something that also, if you get downloads, I'd love to hear about that too, after I find it so fascinating when people talk about that. And I think there's this also stigma around getting downloads from the universe and messages from your higher self, you have to be like a psychic. That's what a lot of people have said, but no. I've constantly heard that. I recently just switched my mindset on that.
What did it use to be
That I wouldn't be able to do that? I, actually, and I'm saying people struggle with meditation because I'm one of those people I now can do it probably about 15 minutes, but as you said, my mind starts spiraling.
And before my mindset was like, oh, I can't get messages. I'm not psychic. But I've really leaned into that intuitive gift because I've realized that I am very good at manifesting and yeah, I'm very good at manifesting being abundant. I ask for signs. And if you ask you shall receive and I'm open to receiving, and I've really tried to limit my resistance because that's a big thing.
And through that, I will get signs all the time and it's moments where it's like, Either I've asked for it or it's just what some people say is a coincidence, but it's not. And I'm like, wow. And I've really opened up my eyes to that in my mind. And everything had been like, I'm ready to receive all of these messages.
And the more you do that, the more they'll give you signs and you'll be abundant and attract stuff, you know?
Absolutely. And you have an excellent balance of masculine and feminine energy going on because you were such a boss in your business, you get all the things done, you plan, you execute all that's flawless, but then as you just said, you were open to receive. you know, you can't just give, give, give and take all the action and work, but close yourself off from receiving. That's not going to work. So that balance is a big part of what really helps the accurate manifestations come through. And one thing that I wanted to mention about meditation because I know it's so hard for a lot of people, especially when they're first getting started.
And especially in this age of like overstimulation, we're always looking for something outside of us to catch our interest. I mean, when was the last time you were just sitting there bored and you were okay with that feeling of being bored.
Yeah, I know I'm always on my phone or reading a book or doing something, but very rarely, like I'm alone a lot. I live alone. I'm not alone.
Oh yeah. I live, I live alone too, but I'm not, but yeah. With, with meditating, what can be helpful is when you're sitting there with your eyes closed, trying to release the thought, and it's not happening, you can simply. Be okay with the thoughts themselves. So as the thoughts come in, you can give them a label.
This is a thought, watch it pass over the screen of your consciousness. This is another thought I'm daydreaming about. I'm fantasizing about a disaster. This is a thought, whatever it is because really the practice is about observing. That's it. It's not about releasing all thought and being just some like nebulous blob it's, it's practicing the ability to focus your awareness.
It's like here, you're going to the gym in your mind. It's just working a muscle because then what happens over time? And when I say over time, if you've never meditated before, stick with it for like 60 days, minimum every single day. Then you will start to really notice the actual benefits and how you feel and how the external world responds to you.
Because after a while of doing this, what happens is that in some circumstance or some person or something that used to trigger an emotional reaction within you, that reaction may happen still. But right at that moment, something will flip and you'll say, Oh, I'm having this reaction.
So it's conscious.
Rather than, Oh my God. I just feel like I'm, I'm panicked or anxious and I don't know what's happening and I wish they didn't do that to me, you know?
And I think a big part too, with meditating and this I could be wrong, but this is from what I've gathered with my own information is it's it is about being conscious, but being aware that you're in the present moment.
And not going down that spiral and creating false events that are you will then make it your reality if you focus on it, because what you focus on will become. And so I think that too really helps and with business and an entrepreneur that is so crucial and I can confidently say, when I leaned into my spirituality, my business took off.
Everything was mindset like. Just the peace of mind, knowing and believing and supporting the fact that there is a source universe, guides, whatever you want to call it in your world that is supporting you for your greater good. And that truly everything is happening in divine time. That has helped me through my lowest of lows.
Like when I got activated twice, I dove in and if I wasn't spiritual, I would have been like a pity party. I would have been playing, making myself the victim. I would have been a hot mess, but I went inward. I meditated. And if you want to say downloads, I came up with a Facebook group. The first time I realized the lesson and the message was to diversify my brand.
And I benefited, I leaned into my intuition and the meditating helped. It helped my mindset the second time. Created a YouTube channel. That's what I'm about. so I think, like your messages around mindset and meditating is so important. It's basic, but it's fundamental.
Well, and you said something that is so, so crucial.
So being in the present moment, that is when you get downloads, that's the only time you will ever receive a download. And that download is not coming from something external to you. It's not some other entity that is hijacking your consciousness and saying, here's the secret. You better write this down.
It's you being in a state of receiving you're allowing because you're already connected to everything else. I know we're individuals but at a higher level. We're all connected. And so when you're receiving these downloads, you can't be thinking about the past. You can't be thinking about the future. You have to be right here in the present moment.
That's the only way it's gonna happen.
And I agree so much and I think that's one thing to it where people, and I have a question after this, but I think that's where a lot of people struggle with leaning into spirituality or saying like, Oh, my manifestations are coming true. Or my meditation isn't working because they're either squeezing the life out of it.
Or they're doing it out of fear, the wrong emotion, or they aren't in the present moment. And that is a big issue because people are squeezing the life out of reaching 10 K and they're like, well, why isn't it coming now? So by allowing yourself to receive downloads on my question quickly was, and then you can go on your point.
There is for the people tuning in, they might have no idea what a download is. Yeah. And if you could just put that down.
Absolutely. So. At least from my perspective, a download is simply a moment of creative genius. It's like you receive these ideas or this intuition pull to take some sort of action or to create something
Yeah. And you can ignore it. You definitely could. You could just kind of be like, okay, that sounds exciting, but I'm going to go watch this episode of the show or I'm going to go make a snack or whatever. You, you totally can't ignore it. But if you don't, if you sit there with your journal and you start writing, what's coming through, or you start making a little, you know, framework, a little plan outline of what you want to do next in your business, whatever the download is related to, you'll find that it very, very quickly gains momentum and builds upon itself.
And you really know when it's happening, when you feel that excitement, you feel that fire it's like. Heck. Yes, this is so cool.
Like two up exactly. Say that doesn't lean into this. I feel like, as they say, Oh my gosh, I just got in a really creative flow. Yeah. So it's, it's that you're leaning into that creativity.
And honestly, how I receive downloads a lot of the time is like, I'll be doing dishes. I'll be out for my work and I'll be like, Oh my gosh, that's a brilliant idea. And I don't know about you. But I have in my notes, tablet, business, ideas, podcasts, I have labels. And when I get these loans and creative ideas, I just put the headline down, and then you come back.
But I always make sure to pause and I don't ignore it because when you become good with receiving downloads and understanding the difference between like, okay, this is like a good idea that has kind of been brought up, or it's a download where it is driven by inspired action and, and, you know, your intuition.
That's where I write that down. And I think to a very important element downloads don't always have to be directly from you. It can be someone coming towards you like a resource that I feel like a lot of people don't realize.
No, that is so perfect. It can even be a conversation. So like when you have a conversation with someone and you're in this receptive state and they could say something.
That either you can interpret it exactly. As they're saying it, there's a perfect match there. You can understand each other perfectly, which I feel like rarely happens because we each have, you know, different lenses, right. Or you can take the words that they're saying and interpret it differently. And it's not just the words, it's the words and the energy in which it said, so you can interpret it as, Oh wow.
This person really doesn't like me. They must think this, this, this horrible thing about me. That would be like on the far end of the negative spectrum, or you could take that and have a creatively genius breakthrough. You have some idea that really just elevates everything in your life and it's, again, it is not the other person doing anything for you.
They are, yes. They're saying words, they're giving off energy, but it's how you receive it. And how you translate it in your own mind. And so when you have two people that are on a very similar sort of wavelength with all of this stuff, you can create incredibly magical results and have incredibly powerful conversations because those people are aware of what energy they need to bring to the table.
They're both aware of where the other person is at, where they're trying to go and what wants to come through. And so you can kind of. You can sort of mold the conversation in a way that facilitates these downloads more easily, but it's still nothing outside of you. You know, it's all up to your interpretation, it's all up to what you do with it,
Which I think is empowering. And like that's where you really come in as a transformational coach, because that's exactly what you do, right? Like you facilitate that and I can. Confidently say, if you guys want a transformational coach like I'm going to plug you here for a second. Okay. I'm not kidding. Like the reason I, you were a download for me in a sense with YouTube, like you helped me work through my limiting beliefs and I failed my first YouTube video and Amanda, it was a bomb.
Like everything was like just flowed because we go into it with that mindset and. You gave me that energy, that push, and it was about tweaking my mindset. And quite often, you, first of all, you have the most like a soothing voice that might be weird, but I always thought you really like for a transformational court coach, like you make the other person feel so calm, which is I think a big element and that helps calm your energy and stuff.
And. I'm sure you with a lot of clients, like you dive deep, like a lot of the time you're going to have those tough conversations of going past those roadblocks, those mindsets, going into your past trauma to Excel as an entrepreneur even, or just as a human being. So the fact that you bring that Avenue, I like, I love that.
And you also, you even personally helped me transform in so many ways, just from you saying, Tasha. Oh my God. I had to run to my phone and send you a voice message, you know, and that's like inspired action. And that's when you are energetically connected, I find, and it's, you can have those powerful outcomes and conversations.
And that's why like you and I love getting on a zoom call. Like, we've literally just done that just to chat. And that's why you're my first guest. Cause it's so amazing. Every time we talk about the transformational coach and I want to dive into that and I'm like, what you're all about? And like, What type of clients do you usually attract?
Like, I just want you to go in and explain for the people that aren't really fully aware of what your purpose is and what you do. And maybe you can really enlighten them and there'll be like, Oh my gosh, this is what I needed in my life.
Sure. Yeah. So really who I, who I love to work with more than anyone is the person who has.
Incredibly large dream, who knows that they were put here on this earth or chose to come here on this earth. However, you want to say it to leave an impact and leave an imprint and make a difference in many people's lives and, you know, to create some sort of legacy for themselves. So while this is entirely possible, Outside of the realm of entrepreneurship.
What I have found is that entrepreneurship is the greatest vehicle for exactly what I'm talking about, creating this type of impact and change. And, you know, as an entrepreneur myself, like that is really the person who I love working with the most. And so the whole purpose, the whole intention behind my coaching is to really bring out the innate genius within my clients.
I love that.
And that's really, that's like the most general way I can even say it most, all-encompassing way. Like we each have a genius inside of us, and there are so many different reasons you could think of whether it's programming, limiting, beliefs, whatever that are hiding, that genius that is covering it.
So it's not that you need to do anything to be a genius it's that you just need to release. What's. Blocking it what's hiding it. So it's a very different sort of process than like, let's try to force something to happen rather than let's just allow it to happen because it's already there. It's already within you.
You already have this amazing infinite potential that is just like waiting to come through.
And that ties the main topic within that I do want within this episode is. Mainly mindset. And like, do you find as a transformational coach, that is primarily the main thing that you have to deal with with your clients?
Often people want another strategy. They want some other thing that will make their business work better or get them to that next level. But the thing about strategy is that every single strategy works. Every single strategy is perfect. It's how you execute it. So it's all about that mindset going into it and through it.
So you can't just dive in with the strategy because that's, that's not going to get you to the level that you want to be at. It's really the mindset first. And the interesting thing that happens is that when you do the mindset work and you get into that place of excitement, being really lit up, being energized for what's ahead.
The strategy reveals itself to you very easily. And it's in a way that it's going to feel scary because it's outside of your comfort zone. Something that you haven't quite done before, but you're more excited. Like you're going to do it. You're doing it now. And with the mindset stuff, I know we talked about, you know, meditation and just getting into this state of being the observer and not being so attached to.
Everything that's happening around you. That for many people can be even too high of a level to start at.
So I remember a time when this was me, you know, I've been there and I've been through it where you're operating with so many deeply ingrained limiting beliefs. And old paradigms tied into your self-worth what you're capable of, what people think of you, how you'll receive love in the world.
You name it, that you do have to go through a period of looking at that. And if you look at it, there's this common misconception in the spiritual or law of attraction community. That if you look at something negative, it's just going to grow. Yeah, right. It's like, if you feel a negative feeling, you're going to just attract more of that.
So you don't want to do that. But the thing about that is that when you were in that space, what is actually happening is that you are resisting the negative and that resistance will override everything else. So it may be simple, maybe simple to identify the source of that negative imprint. And to look at it and to accept it and to let it go, it may take months.
It may take a while of processing because there may be layers around it because not only is it the root emotion that you don't want to look at, that was probably from when you were five, six, seven, eight years old, you know, in your childhood somewhere. But there are other emotions that are wrapped over it.
Like an onion, like layers. What happens is that you attribute meaning to things. So it's not only, I feel angry. It's, I'm ashamed that I feel angry. So that's how those layers form.
And my quick question, and it's about the mindset around feeling the emotions when you're in a negative mindset because you're absolutely right about that comment.
I still struggle with that because I felt like when something was going bad, I was like, Oh, I have to be happy. Go lucky. Nope. Can't think negatively. I can't feel those emotions because then I'm going to manifest more. I'm going to go down this spiral. My energetic vibration is going to be lower and therefore it's just going to go.
And I think even the movie secrets or something, the new one was essential. I don't remember the name, but it's one of the most popular, I think it has secrets, but they came up with a new one this year. And that was the message they were pushing was if you think negative thoughts, negative things will come towards you.
And I was like, it can't just be that. And that's why I love what you're saying. Cause you're diving deeper. Cause then it ties into like shadow work and going inward and allowing yourself to feel the emotion. So I think a lot of people listening would relate to that where if they have dove into spirituality or understanding.
Manifestation and law of attraction, they would say that they've encountered that confusion around either pushing your emotions to the side of this negative or feeling the feelings and allowing yourself to be like what's the root issue. Cause essentially I feel like that's basically the biggest thing around mindset too, is the root issue.
Yes. this is so funny. So you D you mean the movie, the secret from like 2006 or whatever. Okay. And then the new one that came out on Amazon prime or something like that. Okay. Yes. So here's the thing about that? The secret is a wonderful introduction. If you've never heard of any of this stuff, go watch it.
It's fun. You know, it's edited in this almost nineties style way, even though it's from the two thousand, it's like, it's a, it's a fun watch. The reason why it's so it's too simplistic for the majority of people is because, in that movie, the people being interviewed are like, they're like up here, they're like super-advanced with this stuff.
They have been practicing the law of attraction and controlling their state for decades. They're like on, you know, level 50 of the video game or whatever. And from that perspective, through that lens, Yeah, it's simple. Just feel good. Just don't think negative thoughts. Don't like it, but it's not that simple for most people.
Yeah. Because there's so much crap. There's so much crap. And you can't just pretend that it's not there. Yep. If it's there and if you pretend it's not, you are not only in denial, but you're resisting. And if you're resisting, you're also judging. and it's this compound thing. And then that's how you live your life.
And you're 65, 70 years old, and you still have the same insecurities and fears as you did when you were 20. And you're full of regret because you are just unwilling. So this is another universal concept of unconditional love, right? So many people get this wrong. About what love really is. It's very simple.
All it is is a viewing person. The thing, whenever it is with full acceptance, exactly. As they are seeing the truth of the other person and accepting that truthfully. We can imagine giving that to another person. Think about a baby, how easy is it to unconditionally love a baby? You can see the truth of them pooping everywhere, and you still love them.
You still accept them. Right. But like, imagine stemming that around and showing that same unconditional love to yourself. That means seeing your shit too and accepting it.
Yes. Oh my gosh. I feel like that's very. Something else. So many people struggle with it. And then that too ties into the mindset of your lack of self-love.
And it's actually funny this is why I leaned into like mindset and soul-centered sales because my sales process starts with shame and stuff. Cause that's your lack of self-love, your lack of you're ashamed of certain things with yourself. And that's why I like to tie that into my business and.
Because it's so important and that's the root of mindset issues and overcoming it and people, it's not just what the five-step process of like awareness, you know, it's so much the that, and you know that more than anyone and I find that so fascinating how like all these different principles and elements within this topic, it seems like so much to learn, but when you kind of scale it back, it's very simple.
I find it's like rooted back just to you and your feeling of, like you said, self-love and being able to receive. And from there, that's when things are entered, like energetically flowing, and as you said, you can control your state and control your mindset, meditate. And it all just comes together.
And that's what I find so beautiful about it all. And. I like in people say like, Oh, it so woos. Or, you know, like even before we got on you're like, this might be a little too weird. I'm like, no girl. I like it, I think it is important. It's so important for entrepreneurs because I personally just yourself as well.
Like, and people I've talked to you, spirituality. Is so much more than spirituality. It ties into everything and it grows you as a human being, like talk about self-development. And I feel like a lot of entrepreneurs talk, they buy all the self-development books and they apply the strategy element to it.
But if you peel it back and then you kind of compared it to like spirituality and law of attraction, like, is that just like totally elevates it. And then that's where you really can control your mindset. And. Thrive in your business, you know?
Yeah. And this whole path of like spirituality and self-development and growth, there's no destination point.
It's not like you listen to Tony Robbins enough times, and then you're done.
And you can do that. You know, so many people do that. They get into personal development or spirituality or both. And there's this initial dopamine hit off. Okay. I have the information now. I feel good, but then they don't do anything with the information.
There's no transformation. There's no integrating that knowledge. There's no changing the internal program or changing your concept of self.
That's a big one, especially talking about the ego. We have a concept of self at this moment. And if you want to grow that concept of self parts of that concept has to die.
And it's not in this aggressive, like kill off the concept of your type of thing. It's they have to be released. They have to no longer exist for you, whether that's an old story, that's how you see yourself in a certain context, whatever it is. So your self-concept is always changing, always evolving. And this, when you get on this path and when you commit to it, It's a process until you literally physically die.
Like there is no end. It's just a continual journey, which is why I love how that ties in with business too because there's no end in business. It's not like you reach your first six-figure year and then you're done or you make a million dollars and you're done like this whole idea of. I want to reach a certain level of success so I can finally be happy so I can finally retire and stop working and stop having to do things that make me unhappy.
I can finally be happy that's your sign? That, that there's a misalignment with what you're doing?
I think that's like, and that's, and we encounter that and that's where those pivots come in and that's where those tough times. And. You know, where, where you hit those roadblocks. I've now conditioned myself, not to look at those negative things as negative per se.
Yeah. It can suck. It's shitty when you're going through it. Like when I got deactivated, but it's about being in control again and understanding, okay, how can I be happy? How can I reflect on this? And then I wanted to ask you, so the people that are listening and, you know, they're somewhat into this and they want to transform their minds, that they want to lean into this transformational space with the law of attraction.
Like if you had to give someone who's starting out has a pretty good understanding, like three actionable steps on. Where to progress, like in order to elevate themselves their mind and really lean into that state of control, what would you say those three are? Yeah.
Good question. I think the first would be unequivocally the daily meditation.
And I'm really just making that a part of your, like a habit, something that you do. And if you really want to do this, like the next level incorporates regular intervals throughout the day, it could be two times or 10 throughout the day. just checking in with you, like, how do I feel right now? When can I practice being in the present moment, even if I'm not sitting down to meditate, maybe I'm going for a walk and I can just connect with the present moment for literally like three seconds and just look at the beauty of the tree.
So that the practicing cultivating your awareness is huge. Then, the other one, I guess, maybe step two, would be to practice loving yourself a little bit more. So that's going to look a little bit different for everyone, and it's going to depend on exactly where you're at with your relationship with yourself and your self-worth and all of that.
But one thing that can be really effective is to just make yourself. A list of things that you like, and you could leave this as a list or you could get really fancy and even, even create like a self-love menu, like you're in a fancy restaurant and you have this like this wonderful spread to choose from, and it's always available to you.
So yeah. Do it as fancy or as simple as you want and pick one of those things every single day to do, even if it's for like 15 minutes.
You know, and I love that. And so the people listening, you know, I know personally, even when I'm very selective, I'm very open. Like I write my notes in my notebook and I make sure I love that notebook.
It speaks to me my manifestation one too. I kind of get called to me. So when you. Add the element of writing yourself love meant you make it pretty, find a nice time. They make it. I printed a laminate or whatever you want to do and have a marker, put it in your office, put it where it's accessible and so that you are more encouraged to build that habit up.
And again, it seems so simple, but the simple things are where I feel like the transformation mainly happens because you kind of like do all this transformation, but you don't have steps one, two, and three. So if you make those easy steps more enjoyable by just simply buying something pretty like a pretty notebook, a journal, a manifestation of scripting journal, or you're making your love menu beautiful.
Like it's called to you. And so I actually love that. I think that is, so that is so amazing. I haven't heard that before.
Yeah, it's just, I don't know. It's such a huge. Such a cute concept when you think about it, right? It's like, okay, let me go grab the menu. What's on the menu for today. And you know, when, if you do this, if you like stick with it and create this and commit to it, also set an intention.
So it's not like gotta do myself love now, you know, like get really, really clear about how do you want to feel during and after why is this important to you? And even that simple act of setting the intention based on your feelings, rather than some outcome, that's measurable that by itself will put you more and more into that receptive feelings state and that better feeling state.
And I think the third one would be to do something every single day that scares you a little bit, but that's aligned with your mission. So. This could be like, obviously, we could go into this, like for so long, there's like so much to unpack here, but you need to be clear on your mission. You need to have that conviction.
So that by itself is like a whole other piece. But if you can do, and this is specifically for entrepreneurs, right? If you can do something every single day, that's a little bit scary, but that moves you closer. That's part of taking that aligned action. Because when you combine it with cultivating your awareness and cultivating your self-love, you can take that action from a space of legit alignment and it's going to be so much more effective
And they all tie into each other
They do. Yeah. So it's not just like. You do one and then you forget everything else. You know, you can't just meditate for 15 minutes every morning and then go about your day enraged at the traffic and mad at your coworkers or angry at your spouse or whatever, you know, they all tie in.
And even in just to give some examples of scaring or doing stuff that scares you a little bit.
I know a lot of people struggle with this is video. Get on your stories, make a challenge two-week challenge where every single day you're going to show up for at least today. One minute, the next day, two minutes. It's little things. And from someone where I did that, I was terrified.
I remember before you started showing up on your stories and the after it was a huge difference
And you being a transformational coach, which y'all if you're tuning in and you need someone to really.
Elevate your life, literally in every aspect, Amanda is your girl. And I know a few people that have worked with you like Alex from Montreal, she says, you've changed her life. You like, she's amazing owes you her life. That's really what she's that shows you the magic. This girl works. So if you want to work with anyone, like Amanda's your girl, because even I was crippled with my fear of public speaking and. You with not even just your prompt questions, but like our energy and we let it flow. And you helped me take steps to overcome that fear. And don't, we dove deep to, to be aware of why I'm feeling that. So everything you're saying, these three actionable tips that you listed, I think is so perfect. And then this is like, kind of like a case study in the sense of where it worked for me.
And now. I was a keynote speaker. I speak all the time. It's second nature. I was able to get, create a YouTube channel, speak in LA now on a panel. Like what if it wasn't for your work and like a transformational coach, your coaching abilities and just you as a very. The abundant person I find and just all this guidance and knowledge on how to overcome that lack of self-worth fear.
I probably wouldn't have been able to do that or I would have bombed it. Do you know what I mean? Because you've been so amazing. And I think those three types are just like, can literally be applied in every aspect of your business, your personal life.
Thank you so much for saying that. And, and I just want to point out that.
From my perspective, you would not have bombed it. You went on failed because of the only reason why any of that information. Cause I remember that conversation so clearly that we had the only reason why any of that information and that energetic exchange was able to come through from my end was because it already existed within you and you were ready for it.
And that's like, that's like the beauty of this work right here. And just to like, maybe for anyone listening with the video thing, in particular, I'm so glad that you brought that up because that's what I'm going through right now. So just to give a little context for people tuning in who are maybe afraid of video.
So when I first started as an entrepreneur, I'd never done a video before. And I remember making my first ever video for LinkedIn back in like 2018. And it took me six hours to make a two-minute long video. I had to script out. I had to do so many takes. I was like, Oh my God, what am I look like? Caption.
It was nuts. And I was so nervous and I felt that same way before I ever did my first Instagram story. And now like, I'm on stories all the time. We're doing this podcast. I have a YouTube channel. Like that's no problem. But for me where I'm at is live video. So live video is currently my edge. So I've been traveling, changing myself to get on Facebook lives every single day.
So that's actually what I'm going to do after this. And there's always going to be another edge. Like I'm sure that the first time that I want to get into public speaking, that's one of my goals for next year and in the future. And I'm sure that the first time that I go on stage in front of a live audience, It's going to be scary, even if I've done a million live videos on Facebook.
So there's no need to like to compare or judge yourself for where you're at. There's always going to be an edge and it's, it's there to help you grow. It's not there to shame you.
Yeah, I love that. And it's like, honestly, for people listening, it's nice to like humanize, not only ourselves by saying as we've gone through that, but just the humanized and like normalize.
The thought of, Oh, as people have started somewhere. Like they didn't, they weren't just able to get in front of that audience and be like, boom, I'm a boss. And I can navigate this conversation. Like easy. Have the audience flowing because no, like you're right. The first time I went in front of that live audience, it was terrifying.
I mean, my opening sentence, because I got hit by a bus was I swear to God, like that opened up the floor and everyone was laughing, recording, like, and for the people listening, I really did get hit by a bus. It was a week before my event and that helped calm the audience down and myself, my nerves, but it was terrifying.
But now that I've like pushed myself in you, you have that consistency. You, you stepped out of your comfort zone, you challenge yourself. Now I get excited to speak and it really does get easier. Like truly, like it's a phenomenal thing when you just take the first step, just do it once and watch. It's amazing. And I think that would like to conclude all the questions because honestly like we covered so many amazing. Yeah. I love it though. It all ties into one another. You and I both said with this podcast like we wanted it to flow. That's where the best conversations happen, but no, it's honestly been so amazing.
And thank you.
Honored to have you as my first guest
Was so exciting.
I'll have to get on another one too and pick another super, awesome topic. Absolutely. Cause I know there were many topics that we could have chosen for today. I feel like we could keep going for like six hours, literally but know that.
Thank you so much, Amanda. I really appreciate you always come with the best knowledge and just like little gems that everyone needs.
Thank you so much. Yes. So happy to be here
Okay. Well, then that will conclude today's episode. You guys. I hope you loved it. Amanda's honestly amazing. And if you want to connect with her, do you want to just drop your ATS and where everyone can?
So Instagram is probably the place where I'm on the most and I'm Amanda Luketa. So Amanda dot L U K E T a. And that's pretty much where you can find me everywhere else, too. Facebook, YouTube, LinkedIn.
Perfect. All Amanda stuff in the show notes. So if you wanted to check her out, if you want a transformational coach, if you felt aligned with this, then please reach out to her.
Also, you were so open and amazing with DMS. Like you, I know you are awesome for that. Like she really. Has like deep conversations with you guys. So don't be shy, reach out to her, but thank you so much, Amanda. I really, really appreciate it.
Thank you too.
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